Finding out you have herpes can feel overwhelming—physically and emotionally. The first outbreak often comes with pain, discomfort, and a storm of feelings you might not have expected. The good news? You don’t have to face it without support. A few practical tools and self-care steps can help you feel more in control and more comfortable in your own skin.
Here’s our version of a gentle “first aid kit” for those newly diagnosed:
For Physical Relief
🛁 Soothe the pain with a Recovery Soak
Our Recovery Soak, infused with essential oils (Chamomile Oil, Oregano Oil, and Geranium Oil), is one of the most comforting things you can do during an outbreak. Just slip into a warm bath and let your body relax. The star here is Epsom salt—a natural remedy long known for its healing benefits:
- Helps reduce pain and muscle aches
- Soothes irritated skin
- Provides a calming, spa-like experience right at home
After the bath, try to keep the area dry and don't wear tightening and synthetic materials (I mean, go naked, if the situation allows). Use loose underwear that allows the area to breathe.
For Emotional Relief
💆 Stay grounded with Positivity Lotion
Outbreaks aren’t just about physical symptoms—they can weigh heavily on your mood, too. In fact, most people say the physical symptoms are the easier part of getting herpes. So, try our Positivity Lotion: it is designed with uplifting essential oils that encourage calm and balance. Taking the time to massage it into your skin is more than self-care—it’s self-love.
Tips for Managing the First Outbreak Emotionally
Your first outbreak can feel like a storm of emotions—fear, sadness, anger, shame. That’s completely normal. Here are a few things that can help:
- Give yourself permission to feel
- It’s okay to cry, to be upset, or to be confused. You’re processing big news, and healing starts with allowing yourself to feel.
- Talk it out
- Whether it’s a close friend, a trusted partner, or a support group, sharing your experience can lift some of the emotional weight.
Our Secret Society group focuses on healing within a group. We have weekly calls on Mondays, and whether you want to cry, or just hide under a blanket and listen, we got you.
- Shift the narrative
- Herpes doesn’t define you—it’s just one small part of your health story. Remember: millions of people live with herpes, and it doesn’t take away your worth, your beauty, or your ability to love and be loved. Wondering how to start the little things that will help you get over the diagnosis? Check out this short video.
- Practice daily care
A simple routine—like a soothing bath, applying Positivity Lotion, or journaling your feelings—can give you a sense of control when things feel uncertain.
Your first herpes outbreak might feel like the end of the world—but it isn’t. With the right care, you’ll find the pain passes, your body heals, and your emotions become lighter. Keeping a “first aid kit” of supportive products and practices close by makes the process less overwhelming and reminds you that you’re never alone in this.